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Thursday, June 10, 2010
Negativity: A Battle You Can Win!
Many of us go through life as if on autopilot, wandering aimlessly around life’s challenges and expectations. When things don’t go our way, and negative situations occur, we often do the blame game, and forget that we do have control over our thoughts and actions.
Negativity is a learned thought process, usually passed down from generation to generation. However, this doesn’t mean that you have to continue to live with negative thoughts and allow them to run your life. Negativity really does play a role in one’s health, happiness, relationships, success, peace of mind, financial state, and overall satisfaction with life.
The easiest way to begin to overcome negativity in your life is to recognize your thoughts at all times. You have to be conscious of what you say to yourself (in your head), how you speak to others, and what kinds of people you surround yourself with. Once you learn to be in tune to your thoughts and those around you, you can easily distinguish negative thoughts from positive ones – and that’s when change begins.
Each time you catch yourself thinking or hearing a negative thought, change it to a positive one. Living in the present moment allows you to be in control over your negativity. You are aware of your thoughts and can make changes to become a positive person. Over time you will see remarkable results.
Here are some examples to change your negativity for good:
1. When you wake up in the morning, think to yourself (or say it out loud), no matter how you are really feeling, “I feel great!” And do not allow your thoughts to wander down the road of “Really my back aches, my feet hurt and I’m so tired.” Those are all negative thoughts! This simple thought of “I feel great” creates a ripple effect for the rest of your day.
2. As you get ready for your day, constantly think positive thoughts, such as “I have all the time in the world,” “I’m going to have a fantastic day,” “Things are going to go my way today,” and “I’m so grateful to be alive and well today.”
3. When you go to work and you run into the negativity gang who bombards you with, “Today sucks,” “I’m so tired,” “I can’t believe I’m here.” You would think your best defense is to walk away and steer clear of those people, but that will only bring on more negativity. The best method to deal with the negativity gang is to have quick comebacks that will diffuse their negativity. Comments like “Today is great – I feel lucky to be here,” and “I’m having a great day!” will have an enormous impact on your interaction with the gang. How so? Well, you will see a change in them. They won’t want to air their negativity around you any longer because there will be no effect on you.
Negative people prey on other negative people to keep the ball rolling. If you don’t play the game, the ball stays with them. You don’t want to challenge them by saying “Why do you have to be so negative?” Because that will unearth their defense mechanisms and they will try even harder to get you to succumb to their negativity.
4. Outside of work: it’s important to recognize how you used to think about things and how you interacted with your friends, family and anyone else. When a thought comes into your mind, change it to a positive.
Negative Thinking: My dog so rotten, he eats my shoes and messes up the house.
Positive Thinking: I love my dog and I can train him(her) to behave the appropriate way.
Negative Thinking: My daughter is so mean to me. She doesn’t want to help me and she’s always so disrespectful.
Positive Thinking: My daughter is important to me. I will be respectful to her and talk to her about the best method to getting her help. And no matter what she says or does, I will show her how much I love her.
Negative Thinking: Those trash guys always make such a mess on my sidewalk. I can’t stand them!
Positive Thinking: I’m going to talk to the trash guys and let them know that I would like them to be more careful when picking up the trash. If I don’t get any results, I’ll go to their supervisor.
What each of the examples above show is that with positive thinking a change begins because it brings about some sort of action. When we think negative, we are at a standstill with our thoughts and this creates a continuous loop of negativity. However, when you shift your thoughts to positive thinking, you begin to notice that you have control over your life and can do something to change the situation to make it better.
Remember, negativity is a just a thought. It’s not real. It doesn’t have any power: we give it the power when we act upon a negative thought. And when we act upon a negative thought, we create a negative situation. So, reverse the roles! Think positive and see positive situations emerge. But you have to keep at it and continually fight the negativity because it’s a battle you can win!
Negativity is a learned thought process, usually passed down from generation to generation. However, this doesn’t mean that you have to continue to live with negative thoughts and allow them to run your life. Negativity really does play a role in one’s health, happiness, relationships, success, peace of mind, financial state, and overall satisfaction with life.
The easiest way to begin to overcome negativity in your life is to recognize your thoughts at all times. You have to be conscious of what you say to yourself (in your head), how you speak to others, and what kinds of people you surround yourself with. Once you learn to be in tune to your thoughts and those around you, you can easily distinguish negative thoughts from positive ones – and that’s when change begins.
Each time you catch yourself thinking or hearing a negative thought, change it to a positive one. Living in the present moment allows you to be in control over your negativity. You are aware of your thoughts and can make changes to become a positive person. Over time you will see remarkable results.
Here are some examples to change your negativity for good:
1. When you wake up in the morning, think to yourself (or say it out loud), no matter how you are really feeling, “I feel great!” And do not allow your thoughts to wander down the road of “Really my back aches, my feet hurt and I’m so tired.” Those are all negative thoughts! This simple thought of “I feel great” creates a ripple effect for the rest of your day.
2. As you get ready for your day, constantly think positive thoughts, such as “I have all the time in the world,” “I’m going to have a fantastic day,” “Things are going to go my way today,” and “I’m so grateful to be alive and well today.”
3. When you go to work and you run into the negativity gang who bombards you with, “Today sucks,” “I’m so tired,” “I can’t believe I’m here.” You would think your best defense is to walk away and steer clear of those people, but that will only bring on more negativity. The best method to deal with the negativity gang is to have quick comebacks that will diffuse their negativity. Comments like “Today is great – I feel lucky to be here,” and “I’m having a great day!” will have an enormous impact on your interaction with the gang. How so? Well, you will see a change in them. They won’t want to air their negativity around you any longer because there will be no effect on you.
Negative people prey on other negative people to keep the ball rolling. If you don’t play the game, the ball stays with them. You don’t want to challenge them by saying “Why do you have to be so negative?” Because that will unearth their defense mechanisms and they will try even harder to get you to succumb to their negativity.
4. Outside of work: it’s important to recognize how you used to think about things and how you interacted with your friends, family and anyone else. When a thought comes into your mind, change it to a positive.
Negative Thinking: My dog so rotten, he eats my shoes and messes up the house.
Positive Thinking: I love my dog and I can train him(her) to behave the appropriate way.
Negative Thinking: My daughter is so mean to me. She doesn’t want to help me and she’s always so disrespectful.
Positive Thinking: My daughter is important to me. I will be respectful to her and talk to her about the best method to getting her help. And no matter what she says or does, I will show her how much I love her.
Negative Thinking: Those trash guys always make such a mess on my sidewalk. I can’t stand them!
Positive Thinking: I’m going to talk to the trash guys and let them know that I would like them to be more careful when picking up the trash. If I don’t get any results, I’ll go to their supervisor.
What each of the examples above show is that with positive thinking a change begins because it brings about some sort of action. When we think negative, we are at a standstill with our thoughts and this creates a continuous loop of negativity. However, when you shift your thoughts to positive thinking, you begin to notice that you have control over your life and can do something to change the situation to make it better.
Remember, negativity is a just a thought. It’s not real. It doesn’t have any power: we give it the power when we act upon a negative thought. And when we act upon a negative thought, we create a negative situation. So, reverse the roles! Think positive and see positive situations emerge. But you have to keep at it and continually fight the negativity because it’s a battle you can win!
Wednesday, May 12, 2010
Information Highway Pit Stop
Good day to all...
If the Internet is the place to find any kind of information, then I look at this blog as a stop along the way that may offer useful knowledge to somebody.
My goal is simple: write what I know and have learned so that someone else knows it too.
I am sort of an altruist when it comes to information. I am not afraid to admit that I am a knowledge sponge - particularly knowledge that can help people live better lives, understand human nature better and rest easy at night with more peace and less stress. After all, we're only on this earth for a short while. Why not make the most of everyday? Why not?
I sincerely hope that something written here might give someone a tip, knowledge, a key, a link, or maybe just a way towards a better today and many tomorrows.
Cheers!
If the Internet is the place to find any kind of information, then I look at this blog as a stop along the way that may offer useful knowledge to somebody.
My goal is simple: write what I know and have learned so that someone else knows it too.
I am sort of an altruist when it comes to information. I am not afraid to admit that I am a knowledge sponge - particularly knowledge that can help people live better lives, understand human nature better and rest easy at night with more peace and less stress. After all, we're only on this earth for a short while. Why not make the most of everyday? Why not?
I sincerely hope that something written here might give someone a tip, knowledge, a key, a link, or maybe just a way towards a better today and many tomorrows.
Cheers!
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